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Is True Happiness not enough anymore?

“Sometimes when I go over my Social Media channels and look at several posts, then it makes me wonder what people find Really important in Life these days”


Sometimes I’m a bit shocked what I see on Social Media, how people respond on posts about Succes, Get Rich Programmes and Earn a 7-figure Income by so to called “Coaches” Especially because it’s a bit sad that it takes away the True meaning of a Life Coach. A lot of Coaches are now in “the picture” as people who only make lots of money and become real Public Figures. While a True Life Coach is someone who has the Real Intention to Help people improving their Lives, by Creating Happiness and Balance but not mainly based on becoming Succesful or Earning lots of Money.

It makes me wonder what People these days See as True Happiness. I feel there is So much Pressure at the moment that you “Need” to earn lots of Money, Become Succesful and, even better, Become a Public Figure yourself. “Normal” is not good enough anymore, and that’s a True Shame.

You see, True Happiness and True Wealth has actually Nothing to do with Money. You can be Extremely Happy with your Life and what you Have, even though it’s not financially much but Comfortable. Sometimes people who have barely nothing, like in other Countries and Cultures, might be even more Happy than we are. They don’t have much, and they don’t know any better, so they are Grateful with what they have. They don’t have stress or worries about Bills, making lots of Money and Create Status.

We are So Controlled by Society today that we are basically “not interesting” if we don’t show on Social Media what we Have, How Succesful we are and How much Money we make. This Pressure can actually make people Depressed when they are not able to Achieve in this. And How Sad is that?


Lots of people Think that Wealth and Happiness only comes with lots of Money, as then you can Do and Buy what you want. But what, for whatever reason or through whatever circumstances, you don’t have that much money (anymore)…..what Do you have left? Often people fall into Depression when they “lose everything”, and here I talk about material status. As these people had the Believe that the Material Life they had was their Happiness. Again, this is actually Sad as well, as they Still could be Happy and Feel Happiness and be Wealthy….if they Only could See where the True Happiness and Wealth is kept.

So, what is True Happiness and Wealth then? How can you Be and Feel Happy and Wealthy when you don’t have lots of Money, an expensive Car or an expansive Home or Mansion?

You can Create True Happiness when you are able to Be Grateful. Grateful for what you Do have, for All that you already Received and having the Trust in All that still will Come for you. If you have a Roof above your head, Food on the table, a Warm Shower every morning, Beloved Family and Friends around you, Your gadgets, Your Health and still be able to go Out for a meal or a drink sometimes……then you can consider yourself as a Wealthy person. Compare yourself and your Life situation with someone who has Much less than you have….why is it Needed to have more? Is What you already Have not Satisfying enough? As if that’s the case, you will Never be Satisfied as you will Keep Wanting More.

Happiness, you find this Within Yourself. Again, when you are Grateful of what you Have and All that comes to you, if you can Enjoy the little things in Life, if you Feel Loved and are able to Give Love, if you have Good Health, if you can Live without Stress and Worries and be able to Take Life as it comes for you….then you are Creating Inner Happiness. As you Don’t Feel the Need to have more, you don’t feel Greed, as you are Happy with what you Have.


Happiness is Not in Materialism, it is in You, it is in the Non-Material things. And for some people this might be “hard to believe” when their Focus is on Materialism, or their Believe is in Happiness only comes with Materialism. Don’t get Fooled too much by Succesful or the so to called Rich people, as you don’t know if they are actually Truly Happy. But don’t get me wrong, there Are people as well who are very Wealthy and Rich and Are Happy, but they Created a Good Balance in their Life and they Still know the most Importancy in Life. Often these people Give Back. They Help and Support the Homeless or other Charities and that is Great!

What I try to make clear is to Not let your Happiness depending on Money or other Materialism. As when you Only try to search for your Happiness in that, you will keep searching for the rest of your Life. Instead, try to Find the Happiness within You and in the Life you have at the moment. Don’t let yourself Pressure by Society how you Supposed to live your Life or What you should do to become Succesful and make lots of money. It is totally okay to Be Grateful with what you have and Enjoy your Life as it is.

Even if you are Not totally happy with your Life how it is at the moment, maybe because of your current job or relationship or other circumstances, then Try to find a way to Change things around. But then in way that is Right and within Normality. Not by putting Pressure on yourself or Create Stress as this will actually Block your Flow of Happiness. And surely Not because you Need to Look Succesful in the eyes of Others. Someone else can’t make you Happy, You need to Create your own Happiness. And if you only would do it to Look Better towards others, then you Make Others Happy, but finally Not Yourself.


Start Creating your Own Happiness! Smile, Laugh, Live, Love, Appreciate, Care, Do what you Love doing! As in there you will find True Happiness and Wealth.

Angelique Mol ღ

Do you Really Go with the Flow?

People often say “I just go with the flow”. But Do they Really? Is it because they Think they go with the flow, or Do they really know How to do it? Do You know How to do it? 

 

This morning I had a bit of a “Aha!” moment. As I know you still can learn every day, from wherever the source is coming from, as long as you are open for it. An Open Mind is a Perceptive Mind.

I started to read in the book “Change your Thoughts Change your Life” from Wayne Dyer, I had the intention already for ages but for some reason it didn’t came to it. It was probably not the ‘right’ time yet, which is obviously was this morning.

The book describes the Way of Tao, based on Tao Te Ching, to Go with the Flow, the Universal Flow. And only the first ‘verse’ of Tao was already an eye opener for me. I already learned much over the years about the Universal Laws, Law of Attraction, how to Have and Keep a Positive Mindset, how to Create Inner Peace and my Consciousness has grown massively over the year of what I’m Very Grateful for. But still, this was an even more Deeper Understanding for me on top of what I already have learned and practiced over the years. And this shows again, there is Always something you can Learn, Improve, Change or Rich your Life with and grow even more in Consciousness.

Go with the Flow. We often say that when we Feel that we don’t stress about things, but just let the things happen as it comes. Which is great! But what is Really going with The Flow? Is it only about ‘well I just let things come as they come’ or is there more behind it. I learned this morning, there Is more behind it. And it made me Realise how this will Change a lot of things within my own Life, but also within my Holistic Coaching and Therapy.

We are raised and conditioned with certain thoughts about How things Are or How they supposed to Be. We are learned that there is Good and Bad, Black and White, Dark and Light and that one can’t go without the other. In Tao you learn to think more Paradoxically. Things are not really opposite from each other, they are actually similar on each other, but seen from a different perspective.

You can Desire something, and often you want to have it Now. If you can’t have it, for whatever reason, you get disappointed and this blocks the energy of Manifesting, as you don’t give it Time to Create it. So when you can go in a State of Desireless you Give yourself Time for your Desire to Manifest. Basically it comes to the point that we need to Learn that we must stop to put Pressure and Expectations within ourselves and give ourselves Time to Manifest our Dreams, Goals and Wishes. Desireless means Trusting, Permitting and Allowing.

And instead of saying ‘I Need to or I Must’ change your Mind and Learn your Mind to say ‘I Allow’. As when you Allow yourself, you Let Go of your Desire for that moment and Allow it to Manifest and come to you when the time is right. If you put Pressure on yourself because you Need or Must do things, you actually Create a Stress Energy which can block the Flow. And again, when the Energy Flow of a Desire is blocked it can’t be Created and Manifest.

Go with the Flow and Letting Go has also to do with Let things Be, without always Knowing or Wanting to Know or Figuring it all out. Don’t try so Hard to Make something work or happen, simply Allow. Tao is The Flow, The Way and it’s important to enjoy this without the pressure of trying to understand everything and stress about it.

Relax, Let Go and simply Allow. You will find that some Desires are about how you think your world Should be now, rather than How it Is in that Moment, in the Now. Become more of an Observer, Judge Less and Listen more. Don’t Lable or Name things, as these are things we as Humans have Created. From the Universal Energies nothing is Named or Labled. So Let Go of these impressions, expectations and conditioning.

All of this made me Realise, for me as a Life Coach that I can Help people in such a different way comparing to the way a lot of Coaches work. I already had a Different Vision about Life Coaching, as like I mention on my website in the “About Me” section, I like to Help people in a Unique way as Everyone is Unique, not by the standard Coaching Plans and pushing someone that it’s important to earn a 7-figure income. To me, that is not True Life Coaching, it’s Selling a Progamme. But this morning it came to me even more Clear how I can Fine Tune my way of Coaching and Genuine Helping People.

Setting Goals is great, and you can still do that as that might give a certain meaning in your Life. Creating a Plan where you want to Be in 5 years from now, is still a nice start point but the Only difference now according to the Flow and The Way of Tao is that you need to set out your Intentions and then Let Go….to give it Time to Manifest. No Pressure that you Need to Be at a certain point in 5 years from now, as who knows what crosses your Path within these 5 years? You might reach your Goal sooner than that, or maybe it even takes you a bit longer. And that’s the whole point. Take off the Pressure, Stress and Expectations. Just learn to Change your Mindset, Set out your Intentions ( or Dreams or Goals ) and then Let Go and simply Allow.

In this way, a Coach can still Motivate you, Help you but in a True and Genuine way to Improve your Life, with All that comes with it. Together with using Powerful Affirmations ( which are strong intentions you send out ) you are even in a Better position to reach your Goals or Create the Life that you want. But if you simply Allow and the Universal Energy can just Flow naturally, it will Manifest in your Physical Reality.

I hope this gave you a bit more clarity and insight in how the Universal Energy Really works. How it Really works when you Go with the Flow. It’s not something you just Say, you need to Practice it, in the right way. Which also involves Accepting things as they Are, Let Go of it and Allow.

If you Really want to Change your Life in How you Want it to be, start to Learn how to Really Live in the Flow, start to Learn to change your Thoughts and Mindset, start to Change your Perception on Things and People and start to Learn to Accept, to Let Go and to Allow.


Angelique Mol ღ
Source: Dr. Wayne W. Dyer – Change your Thoughts Change your Life

Positivity is the way to move Forward



When you have a Positive Mindset you Feel better within yourself
and you are also able to make better decisions. You feel more Confident and are more focused on what you want.

Positivity is very Powerful as it comes with the right Energy you need to make progress in your Life and your Goals. When you feel down and Negative within yourself you find easily enough reasons why things are not working out for you, why you don’t want to do anything about it  (as it doesn’t work anyway, or I’m not good enough ) so you are very easy and quick in finding lots of excuses.

The problem is, when you are in a state like that, it’s often very hard to turn your mood around. Your thoughts are negative, you feel bad within yourself….and the more you start to think with these vibrations the more it keeps you down. In this way you won’t be able to do anything about your situation or your plans as you simply don’t believe in it yourself.

The moment you are able to turn the energy around into Positive vibrations, by yourself or with help from someone, you start to recognise that things Can be different and that you Are able to do things. You start to Believe in yourself and see thing from the Bright Side. At once things start to make sense and you start to see what didn’t work for you but what Will work for you.

At that point you can start making plans, if you know What you want to do or want to change, as that comes first of course. Once you know, it’s time to Do something about it. And you Will as you feel empowered to take action, to move forward! You get Excited and Motivated!

Even if you take little steps forward…it still means you’re moving Forward. Some things just take time and can happen or change overnight. But that’s okay, you need to Allow yourself time to make these changes. And if you feel you need any kind of support….get it! It might be a Coach, it also might be a good friend or family member. Asking for help and support is good! Often it’s easier when there is someone you can turn to when you might feel a bit stuck or when your confident goes down a bit, then at least there is someone who can help you back into Motivation.

Don’t underestimate the Power of Positivity, as it works in Everything! Using Positivie Affirmations is a Great tool to use to keep your level of Positivity up. Writing your plans down in a Journal is also a good tool, update your Journal daily as this will keep you on track and motivated as well.

A Positive Attitude and Mindset helps to Change your Life, how you Dream it, how your Want it.

Keep it up!

Angelique Mol ღ

Where Anger meets Unconditional Love

“When comes the point that you let Anger take over…..and where comes the point you kick in Unconditional Love?”

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We all come in situations in our Life that we have to deal with Anger. This can be at work, in some circumstances, in Family and Relationships. But when, or better to say Why, do we let Anger control our Mind, Attitude, Mood and Feelings. In what way and at what point are we able to take over this control of Anger so we can actually see the Love again in someone.

I experienced myself a situation over the past view weeks, which gave me a very much of a mixture of feelings. First I felt sad and upset, then worried and then it turned into Unbelieve and Anger. For me, on my own personal Spiritual Journey, to have learned about Unconditional Love and to see Love in all people, it’s still a Human reaction to come at a point of Anger.

But for me, the most important thing is that this Anger is able to turn into a more Positive feeling again, a feeling of Love that you felt before for that person, an understanding in some way (not for the person, but for myself) and be able to send Unconditional Love, like you would do to anyone else.

If you Forgive someone, you also Forgive yourself. You basically cut the cord of being Angry with someone and no longer Allow yourself to spend any (negative) Energy to the person or situation. This means, you can Let Go. And it still doesn’t mean you Agree, are Happy about all that happened or will ever forget…..no, it means you basically Step Away from it and no longer let it Influence or Control your own Life, Mood, Happiness and Positivity.

In my recent situation, I Will never forget, I still Don’t agree…but I put Energy of Forgiveness in the situation, for my Self. So that I can Let Go and move on from the situation, I simply don’t Allow it anymore to be present in my Life which might effect my mood and own positive attitude.

The quicker you can turn Anger into Love again, for your Self, the quicker you are able to Let Go of Unwanted and Negative Energies. As finally, you only Hurt yourself by holding on to Anger, disbelieve, frustration and the stress that comes with it. Don’t do that, Try not to do that. Heal your Self as quickly as you can from these Energies and Situations.

And if it might mean that I lose a very dear Friendship because of me Letting Go from this situation, then So Be It. Sometimes Letting Go is better than Holding On to something that is not “Healthy” for you anymore. I’ve learned to Let Go of All that doesn’t “serve” me any longer and it’s indeed the best way for letting yourself not influenced any longer. As we need to move on, not standing still or let ourselves hold back by others or situations.

Letting Go with Unconditional Love is not always the easiest thing to do, but sometimes the best thing to do.

Angelique ღ

How Connected are you with your Inner Child?

“Your Inner Child is an important part of your Inner Happiness”

Angelique Mol ღ

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What is your Inner Child? It’s the “child part” within us and includes all that we learned and experienced as child before puberty. It’s a part of us that will always be there and that we can let come to the surface whenever we want.

As adults we often have our Inner Child repressed within us. We have the Belief that we need to be serious, responsible and perfect in everything we do. We don’t have time to “play” as we need to focus on career and succes.

Though repressing your Inner Child can create a blockage in your Inner Peace and Inner Happiness, as we all Need time to play now and then. When we allow ourselves to do so it gives us Positive Energies and Vibrations, it gives Joy, Fun, Laughter and Happiness.

So what can you do to Awaken or Re-connect with your Inner Child?

Basically, everything you also loved to do as a child, without shame, without boundaries. When was the last time you sat on a swing? For me, it’s been not so long ago, and even though people were looking at me and my daughter, we didn’t care, we had fun!

Dance! Sing! Play! Have a pillow fight with your partner, skip through a park instead of walking, see the world as a Magical Place, play in the snow, have a play with a water hose….there is so much you can do for letting your Inner Child to come alive!

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And if you find it hard to do certain things when there’s other people around, then do it at a moment when you’re by yourself, it doesn’t make a difference that much, though it would be better if you just Be your Self, including your Inner Child, also in front of others without shame to show the True You.

Most people might look funny at you as they don’t have the guts to do it themselves, but deep inside…..they would want to as well. Don’t forget, it doesn’t matter what other people think, you only are responsible for your own Happiness, so why would you press it away or to the background, only because of what other people think?

Try it! And let me know how you Feel about it ;-) I bet you Feel Good!!

Angelique ღ