Tag: feeling

Saying “No”….is it that hard?

Is it So hard to say “No” ? If it is….why? If it is not….why often don’t we?


I used to be someone, and rarely still am, who had a hard time to say “No”….to things, but mainly to people.

I came at a point that I thought “why can’t I just say No for once”? Is it such a hard thing to do? Is it selfish?

We all learn to be polite, to please other people in different kind of ways and even often we learned to do things we “must” do, even though we don’t really feel up to it.

Over the years I learned to listen more to my Self, and even it’s sometimes still hard to do what I feel and want, I made a huge progress in this. I still have moments that I don’t say No, even when I maybe should or want to….but I look now more to the situation and for who it’s for, not just for everything and everybody.

The point is, when we always say Yes to everybody and everything, people start to have expectations from us and actually we do this to ourselves, by always agreeing and saying Yes…..

The moment we start to say No, we might get some comments, pulling faced and attitudes from people….but, as soon as they realise you do what You want and not what you Don’t want, they will finally accept.

It gives a form of Freedom as you know for yourself, you don’t Have to. You don’t have to do anything that doesn’t feel right for You. And this is okay, it’s not selfish.

We, people, are So tight up by rules, what we “must” do, how we “should” do…..says who? Who’s making up these rules, who decides?

In the end…..it’s You who decides! You always have a choice, in anything.

Angelique ღ


The importancy of Self Acceptance


Many people have trouble to accept themselves as they Are, they can mention easily one, two or more things they don’t like about themselves. Why?

Is it Really that you don’t like that part of Your Self? Or is it because you like it to be more Perfect for others? Most of the time we like things better or more beautiful so we are more accepted by others.

It’s a shame actually as we put a kind of pressure on Ourselves by doing and wanting that. In this way we are always anxious about Ourselves and try to make it better all the time….if you think about it….it cost us lot of ‘work’, time and energy to keep up with it every day.


What if we would just Accept Ourselves for who we are? With all our flaws and fails, our “imperfections”….as who is totally Perfect? Everybody has his own flaws, fails and “imperfections”.

Can you Imagine how Releiving that would be? To just Be who you are without worrying if others Like it or Accept you? If you can do that you have reached the state of Self Acceptance which is a Great and Beautiful thing!

And we All should be like that! Why do you want to change Your Self for others? If people Really Like you they will Accept you for Who you Are and not How you Look ;-)

So, shall we try to make a change in that? For Ourselves, to Feel Free in Who we Are. Just try and see if you Feel a Difference…..you will :-)

Angelique Mol ॐ