Tag: Acceptance

Saying “No”….is it that hard?

Is it So hard to say “No” ? If it is….why? If it is not….why often don’t we?


I used to be someone, and rarely still am, who had a hard time to say “No”….to things, but mainly to people.

I came at a point that I thought “why can’t I just say No for once”? Is it such a hard thing to do? Is it selfish?

We all learn to be polite, to please other people in different kind of ways and even often we learned to do things we “must” do, even though we don’t really feel up to it.

Over the years I learned to listen more to my Self, and even it’s sometimes still hard to do what I feel and want, I made a huge progress in this. I still have moments that I don’t say No, even when I maybe should or want to….but I look now more to the situation and for who it’s for, not just for everything and everybody.

The point is, when we always say Yes to everybody and everything, people start to have expectations from us and actually we do this to ourselves, by always agreeing and saying Yes…..

The moment we start to say No, we might get some comments, pulling faced and attitudes from people….but, as soon as they realise you do what You want and not what you Don’t want, they will finally accept.

It gives a form of Freedom as you know for yourself, you don’t Have to. You don’t have to do anything that doesn’t feel right for You. And this is okay, it’s not selfish.

We, people, are So tight up by rules, what we “must” do, how we “should” do…..says who? Who’s making up these rules, who decides?

In the end…..it’s You who decides! You always have a choice, in anything.

Angelique ღ


The importancy of Self Acceptance


Many people have trouble to accept themselves as they Are, they can mention easily one, two or more things they don’t like about themselves. Why?

Is it Really that you don’t like that part of Your Self? Or is it because you like it to be more Perfect for others? Most of the time we like things better or more beautiful so we are more accepted by others.

It’s a shame actually as we put a kind of pressure on Ourselves by doing and wanting that. In this way we are always anxious about Ourselves and try to make it better all the time….if you think about it….it cost us lot of ‘work’, time and energy to keep up with it every day.


What if we would just Accept Ourselves for who we are? With all our flaws and fails, our “imperfections”….as who is totally Perfect? Everybody has his own flaws, fails and “imperfections”.

Can you Imagine how Releiving that would be? To just Be who you are without worrying if others Like it or Accept you? If you can do that you have reached the state of Self Acceptance which is a Great and Beautiful thing!

And we All should be like that! Why do you want to change Your Self for others? If people Really Like you they will Accept you for Who you Are and not How you Look ;-)

So, shall we try to make a change in that? For Ourselves, to Feel Free in Who we Are. Just try and see if you Feel a Difference…..you will :-)

Angelique Mol ॐ

SaLuSa 20 June 2014

I greet you again and note that so many more of you are awakening to the increase in vibrations. They are gradually introducing you to the new levels that are being established as you enter deeper into the Photon Belt. The result is that you are experiencing heightened senses of what is going on around you, and beginning to understand the Oneness in which you exist. Gone are the times when you felt alone and isolated, and now you can appreciate and feel the higher energies that are very uplifting. Furthermore, your levels of consciousness are expanding, and with it comes a greater understanding of higher levels of existence. You are lifting up and being carried along by the higher vibrations, and those souls who have progressed at a slower rate are finding it hard to keep up. However, as we have intimated previously, there will be a dividing of the ways and that will place souls at a level that suits them to enable the continuing progress of their evolution.


The fact is Dear Ones, that where your evolution is concerned you cannot stand still. There is also a driving force within you that subconsciously seeks expression, and you will always seek higher and higher levels of consciousness. As you progress back to the Light the journey becomes much easier and your goals more clearly defined. With you are other souls that also follow the same path and you become a unit of consciousness where you all become the One, yet you retain your own level and individuality. You will always be drawn to souls who have a similar vibration to your own, making evolution a most satisfying achievement. However, at your present stage you are still so to say, finding your feet and seeking out the path that fulfils your needs. Your destiny and success are assured, but you still have a long way to go on your spiritual journey back to the Godhead.


As we see it the present time is most exciting for you as at long last you are lifting up out of the lower vibrations, having surmounted the many challenges that have faced you. It has been a journey that has at times sorely tested you, but you have a driving force with you that keeps you pushing forwards at all times. You have now reached a stage when by comparison it will become a lot easier to progress, and you will not be challenged at every turn by the lower vibrations. You will in fact notice how much easier life moves along in harmony with your desires and is more fulfilling. So you can release any attachment to the vibrations that no longer serve your purpose. From hereon you will rise up more rapidly and life will become a pleasure, providing you do not maintain your past links with situations that have proved to be of a negative nature. You are progressing to a point when you will break your associations with anything less than the Light, as they no longer serve your true purpose.


To some of you the tasks ahead may sound frightening, but bear in mind that there is always help not far away if you need assistance. Indeed, there are unlimited sources of help and there is no situation that cannot be overcome. Your progress is followed at all times by those souls that dwell in the higher dimensions, and particularly at this time because your success is also important to their evolution. Every soul has numerous helpers that cover each stage of your evolution as if you were to fail, the delay would put back their evolution, but have no fear as your future success is assured. Also do not be concerned about other souls that you may know, as all of you will find your exact level quite automatically and there cannot be any mistakes in this respect.


Every living thing whether animate or inanimate is progressing and evolving however slowly, and you are what you might say, the centre piece that is evolving very quickly. It is probably a good time to remind you that you came to Earth by dropping down through the various levels. So as you rise up again you are in fact returning to levels that you were once present in before this particular time. Life is all about experiences, and once you rise up out of the lower dimensions you will have more say in where your future incarnations take you.


Life abounds everywhere in the Universe, and whilst on Earth you have been “isolated” for your protection to prevent interference with your evolution. It is true that certain ET species have been allowed to contact you over many centuries, but their presence has been monitored and carefully followed. They have been allowed to alter your future by their actions, but only to give you experiences that have assisted your evolution. As you will learn in the not too distant future, you have in fact been held back from truly evolving by the dark Ones  You have been prevented from advancing further into the true Space Age, by not being allowed to benefit from progress denied you by those who have kept  it for themselves. However, once they are out of the way we can openly meet you and your evolution will take a giant step forwards.


We hope you understand the full implications of the period you are in, and if you can stand aside and let events progress as needed, you will be much better for it. Naturally some of you are unavoidably drawn into the issues of the day, and if so simply make allowances for what needs to take place to bring you fully into the New Age. Your responsibilities in the end times may be already be known to you, but if not by finding a quiet period and going “inside” yourself as you do for meditation, you should be able to come to the realisation of what it is. If not simply keep an open mind and be prepared for something new to come your way. Certainly most Lightworkers will be called upon to do their bit to bring the changes into being. Every little helps to form the larger picture which will become apparent in a relatively short time.


I am SaLuSa from Sirius, and enjoy these times when we can use our influence to prepare you for the New Age that you have recently entered. You will benefit from having experienced the changes and in fact are privileged to be present on Earth at such a time. The best is still to come whilst the present period is somewhat volatile because of the changes.


Thank you SaLuSa.

Mike Quinsey.


How to deal with Unexpected Changes?

change is a process
Sometimes situations pop up in your Life, at once or maybe you have seen it a bit coming, what sort of  messes up your steady Life at once.
How do you deal with that? What can you do that it doesn’t effect your mood or your whole comfortable Life you had till then?
Changes always happen, through your whole Life. Sometimes they come unexpected, sometimes you already have seen it coming for a while.
Sometimes those Changes are great! Sometimes they can be hard to deal with.
But when the moment arrives that, sometimes invariably, Changes are at your front door you need to deal with it, whether it’s something nice or not.
The best way to deal with it is Acceptance, I know, it’s not always easy to Just accept things how they are. Especially not when it’s a less nice Change that is about to happen.
But also keep in mind that Changes have a reason as well. Sometimes Changes are needed to help you grow or move you into another direction. But it can also be you need to experience the Changes as something you need to Learn from, though it’s often not always immidiately clear what you should Learn from it. That often comes out later ;-).
It surely doesn’t help when you get upset about it as this cost you a lot of Energy and it won’t change a thing either as when there are Changes need to be done, it’s just the way it is.
So, acceptance is the only thing you can do at this moment.
It also helps to pick out the Positive things in it. In every situation, in every Change or Happening is something Positive. You only have to allow Your Self to See and Recognize it.
Even when it’s just something minor, doesn’t matter, it helps with Accepting things as they are.
We always need to make the most out of our Own Life and so we should indeed. Changes and Situations are a part of that as well, if we like it or not. It’s on Us how to deal with it and how much we let it effect our Life.
The more you are capable of Accepting things as “it’s the way it’s meant to be” or “I can’t do anything about it anyway” the easier you make it for Your Self to deal with it.
It’s okay to feel Sad in a situation or when certain Changes are about to come, but don’t let the Sadness effect your daily Life to much. Try to focus on Positive and Happy things or things you like doing so you can put your Mind on something else and “forget” about the Changes.
You also don’t have to feel guilty when you feel sad as it’s a normal reaction when somethings happen we are out of control with. But again, don’t let it effect your Life too much as you need to keep moving and growing forward ;-).
Changes are not always bad either even when it seems so in the first place. It can have an Outcome you don’t recognize or realize yet but you will find out and know when the time is there for you to know.
Changes are meant to be as a part of our Journey, our Life, our Lessons and they will appear more than once as you know.
Accept Changes, good or less good, as it always has a Purpose :-).
Angelique ღ ,

Is receiving Approval and Recognition important for you?

How important is it for you to receive Love, Approval and Recognition from others, like Family, Friends and Colleagues?
“When I’m not nice to them they will reject me, criticize me or even leave me”
How do you recognize this?
  • You might be scared and unsecure to be Rejected by others, this can mean your Family, Friends, Colleagues or other people who you know or who are close at heart
  • You are ambivalent about excisting Relationships, which can be your Love Relationship or common Relationships with others
  • Having the feeling you don’t Receive much or any Recognition
  • You are afraid for Criticism or to be Blamed for something
  • Being Jealous
  • You always like to add something on top of things like it’s never enough
  • Keep the peace for every price
  • Being afraid of what others might think or not think
  • Always tend to obey
  • Always meet deadlines
  • Always try to be Friendly
For example:
When you always say “Yes” while deep inside you rather would say “No” but otherwise you would feel guilty for saying No then you respond out of Rational Believe that you Always should be nice and kind.
So, how do you deal with this?
It’s very unrealistic to expect from you to make everyone  his way and always receive Love and Appreciation because of that.
The Most important person to receive Love from…..is You!
When people turn down your ideas you receive information about what doesn’t work and so you know how you can do better next time ;-).
Don’t take it too  much on board what people do or say. They all have their own Believes or Fears to deal with or to work on what makes them sometimes not be the nicest person at that moment.
It’s way more important what you Think and Feel about your own Ideas and Believes. It’s impossible to satisfy Everyone all the time.
It’s also a waste of Energy to try this as you will never be able to Achieve in this :-).
Of course, it’s always nice when you receive a nice feedback from Family, Friends or your Partner but when you strongly Believe in You, you don’t really need their Feedback as you are Mature enough to decide for Your Self and what is good for You.
Rise Up and Follow your Own Ideas!
Angelique ღ , Life Coach
Twitter: @Coach_Angelique